Author: Scott Darlington

Can You Trust the Media? If not, who can you trust?

If you’re like most people, you’ll quickly pick a side or a point of view when you encounter an issue. We discussed several factors that often influence this process in our article, Picking a Side and Influencing Others. One key factor is the media, such as television, a newspaper, or a web site. So a key question, then, is can you trust the media? Sadly, too often the answer is “No”. Sometimes an issue comes along that a very simple internet search would reveal to be false. Nevertheless, too often major media outlets will carry the story without caveat....

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Picking a Side and Influencing Others How many people choose which side to take on issues. It isn't pretty.

How do you go about picking a side on an issue? You need to investigate the arguments on both sides. What are the claims of each side? Are they true? If I pick this side, is that better for me? Better for my family? Better for my country? What about the other side? Will circumstances change over the next year or two? If so, how would that affect my decision? It doesn’t take long for even a simple issue to become complicated. Consider, for a moment, Climate Change. Many people hold strong opinions about this issue. In fact, it’s...

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The Contentious Term, “Rape Culture” Helpful or Harmful?

Sexual assault is a simple issue on the one hand–just don’t do it. But in so many ways it is one of the more complex issues we deal with today. It’s a very important issue in our society and we must make reduce its frequency and improve attitudes towards women. Advocacy programs and many advocacy groups are doing what they can to improve the situation. Sometimes, though, the actions and positions they take can be counterproductive. This can occur when they misunderstand a perspective held by men, who are an important target for change. Using the term Rape Culture...

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Black Lives Matter versus All Lives Matter A Study in Misunderstanding

All those who think Black lives don’t matter, raise your hands! That’s nobody, I hope. All those who think some lives don’t matter, raise your hands! That’s nobody, too, I hope. Because all lives matter. So, if we’re all in agreement, why is there so much outrage and raucous debate about this subject? Because of misunderstandings. On both sides. The misunderstandings occur because people don’t always understand what the “other side” means. There’s a lot of context to #BlackLivesMatter. It started  when George Zimmerman, who shot and killed Trayvon Martin, was acquitted. Tragically, shootings like this seem to happen...

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Welcome to Our Site, A Grey World! The world is not black & white

Many people who see the world as black and white will immediately take their own usual side on any issue. Little thought is put into why they feel that way. Furthermore, without spending some thought on why other people feel differently, the sides don’t understand each other. When the other side fails to respond to “reason”, they are seen as fools and idiots, and then the name calling starts. This is clearly counterproductive. Nobody is influencing anyone on the other side, neither side budges, and no sensible discussion or investigation takes place. We see this all too often, and it’s a...

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